If you are a little bit interested in the auspiciousness of astrology like me, you already know that 2025 has been described as a unique and powerful year. A year where we are to let go of the old patterns of our lives and reclaim/rebuild/reconstruct ourselves again. This applies to the world too; the uncertainty, chaos, and tremendous instability are present both within and outside of us. Almost everyone around me is going through really turbulent, redefining times in their lives. Some in love, some in careers, and some in every aspect of their lives. Without a doubt, it is a hard year, a year of confusion where we are trying to see our next steps through the fog. A lot of us in my immediate surrounding hear the term: reset year. Sometimes we laugh about it, but if I observe around me, so many of my close friends are going through really challenging, life-changing moments. Many of us are trying to navigate the times of uncertainty imposed on us, trying to figure out what we do. Do we embrace it or do we make moves? Obviously, there is no right or wrong response; it is deeply personal. For me, I am trying to learn how to embrace uncertainty and ground myself in the present, not getting caught up in the cycle of panic, negativity, and fear. As always, I am looking at relationships. How do we navigate these times of uncertainty at home, a place that is supposed to be comfort or a safe space? Inevitably, every long-term relationship goes through times like this. They are the most defining times of every relationship. How do you navigate together the unknown?
I firmly believe in the grey area of relationships, meaning all the mess in between cozy, stable times and chaotic, hard times. There is also in between, the grey area. It might be the hardest area for the black and white type of people; it has so many nuances. For me, it is the most raw and honest out of all. It shows the resilience of the relationship and the commitment to figuring things out. Are we really in for it all, or are we one foot in and one out of the door? This year of reconstruction, releasing the old and rebuilding can happen within the same relationship. We are ever-changing, ever-moving, sometimes forgetting we get to choose the direction. It is the ability to slow down, to ground ourselves that can give us the space to find our choice. I am not talking here about holidays and taking prolonged breaks, which, if you can, is always a beautiful luxury. I am talking about small grounding practices during the day that can help us navigate these turbulent times. These are different for all of us, can be as small as listening to a soothing song, taking deep breaths, calling a loved one, going for a walk, or whatever brings you a pocket of peace and helps you stay in the present.
Present is so simple and yet so complex; we are all told to stay in the present, focus on what is here and now. And yet again, we are spiraling in the past or obsessing about the future within moments. It is hard to remind ourselves constantly that the present moment is really all we have; it is where all our choices and creations lie. The past is no longer here and the future is unknown; however, the choices we make in the present can help with creating the future. I am currently reading a book referenced below about embracing these uncertain times and learning to be curious about the unknown that is ahead. It requires relearning the conditioning we received during our lifetime, understanding what is ours and what we have inherited from the others around us. Can we learn to enjoy and dance in the unknown? Are we able to do all we can to strive towards our desired goals but let go of the desperate control of outside factors? I don’t know about you; I am still learning, but I like the idea of being free from feeling responsible for the things that are not in my control. This is the hardest when it comes to intimate relationships: stop trying to control, convince, or model our partners to our needs and ideals. Can we slow down and observe each other with curiosity? Or even start asking each other about their experiences without jumping to conclusions? So many fights and crises can be prevented if we release the need to be in control or right.
As always, I firmly believe life is about colors and especially the intimate relationships and the relationship we have with ourselves. There is no right or wrong; the canvas is blank and waiting for your colors. I just hope you stay present, patient, and loving with each other and yourself. We are going through challenging times, but they can also have magical moments of blossoming and growth into much better times.
PS. For my fellow journaling friends, I found this beautiful book below by the incredible Suleika Jaouad. It is a wonderful book of small journaling prompts that can help in creating a daily creative and releasing routine for grounding. As I wrote in my previous posts, the smallest daily routines and rituals are extremely important in times of uncertainty. They give us a sense of control and grounding when we feel like the world is spinning too fast.
Sending all my love,
Eni
Dum Amo,Vivo 