I have been asked by my 2 devoted readers when the next post is coming, and life lately has been pure immersion into experiencing and feeling. So I thought, most of the time, we create out of sadness or hard times. Writing and all forms of art come in as a lifeline, as a healing journey. Rarely do we write in happy moments because we are focused on living and being present in them – as we should. But I want to take a moment and write about the beautiful daily moments of life and love that sometimes we take for granted if they are available to us any time. This post is purely based on my thoughts and views; it is not related to any book or resource I usually write about.

Ultimately, this blog is about love, in all its forms. I truly believe in love and the power of it. Only when there is love are real-life miracles possible, and the most beautiful part is that we as humans create those miracles. You can always find incredible love stories that transcend time, reason, or tradition. I have always been drawn to love stories of people; to this day, my favorite thing is to listen to love stories of couples. When you are in that sweet spot of love and the honeymoon phase, life seems easier. The hug of your loved one is your favorite place on the planet, the kiss is the sweetest moment of the day, and there is never enough time to be together. It is the phase that builds a base for the future; in those sweet moments, you build your emotional tank for when challenging times come. It is also the phase we tend to forget the world, becoming so intertwined in a love bubble that everything else is a bit less of a focus. And that is normal; I have always believed that when you are a friend of someone who is in that phase, my job is to let them savor every moment, and when they need me, I am there for them. For almost a decade, I have observed my friends in this sweet phase of life, and I know at some point it balances itself out. They come out of the bubble eventually when they build stability and grounding with their partners. In some cases, this sweet phase is not as smooth and carefree due to different circumstances, but it doesn’t make it any less powerful when it comes to those sweetest moments.

For me, it is all about little moments, made out of thoughtfulness for each other. At this stage in my life, I look at this phase of love differently. I take it all in consciously and full of gratitude knowing that it won’t be like this forever but also knowing we all have the power and choice to maintain it. As someone who has not experienced this phase for a very long time, experiencing it now feels different than 10 years ago. There is a different feeling when someone is gently caressing your face, or holds you with patience and tenderness. When someone holds your hand during discussion so you stay connected through it. Those are the priceless moments of connection where everything else comes as a cherry on the top. Then there are hours and hours of talking and sharing. Anyone who met me knows there is nothing in the world I love more than listening and sharing; it is what makes me feel most connected to people, especially in love. When you are in love with someone, there is never enough time with them; you always want more. It is the sweetest thing; you say goodbye and after 30 min you feel like you miss them already. Days apart feel like weeks and every moment of reconnecting is like time stopped. In this phase, your loved one seems perfect too; it is a very fragile premise, though, because there is no perfection. However, I do believe this period and what you see in them is what you should remember for the more challenging times ahead.

It is not easy to find someone who matches your love language and has the need for it in a similar way. It is hard to stay connected today; with so many distractions, presence with someone is becoming like a rare treasure to find. Finding someone who is genuinely interested in knowing you, listening to you, and growing with you is very precious and, for me, very sacred in a way. It is a place of belonging with someone else. I make a difference between belonging to yourself and with someone else. Belonging with someone means creating space for both to be able to be their full selves. It will include effort, sacrifice, respect, and kindness. We never belong to someone, but we can feel belonging with them. We can feel at home both within and together. The ultimate liberation and freedom for me is being able to be your imperfect self and feel loved for it all. I often say to my loved one, “I wish you could see yourself through my eyes; I wish you could feel love towards yourself in a way I feel for you.” I guess another benefit of going through this phase of young love at a certain age of maturity is that you no longer see only the best stuff; you also see the imperfect little things about them that you choose to love and live with; that is the choice of love. I once read that a partner should help you fall in love with yourself more, and it has stuck with me ever since.

One of the most beautiful parts of falling in love and loving is that it does not change with age. How magical it is to see people in love in their 70s and 80s being like teenagers together. The smile for the one you love is something so special and unique; I always say the eyes and smiles are one of a kind. You can tell when two people are mad about each other. I am witnessing love around me all the time because I am focused on that, seeing people who love deeply and embrace life with their open hearts. I am still learning; deep love is exposing, vulnerable, and risky. It takes a lot of courage to open your heart to someone; you always risk being hurt, but without that risk, there is no depth. Like anything in life, growth comes outside of the comfort zone.

One vulnerable practice I love is eye gazing; it is one of the most exposing and connecting moments. Eyes are windows to our soul, and if we look carefully, we can see all emotions happening within, if we only pay attention. With time, I have learned the importance of conscious connecting through hugs and kissing. It is the presence during that creates so much more on a physical, emotional, and spiritual level. Those are the moments when a person feels like home to us. For some of us, physical touch is our love language; being one of them means, for me, little gestures of physical connection give me a sense of safety and connection. Being held by someone who is generous and patient with their love is a precious gift; each hug or physical interaction is an exchange of energy and a willingness to extend yourself to and for the other. I hope you cherish those moments with care and appreciation.

The way we communicate in the young love phase also sets us up for the future of the partnership. During this period, we learn about the communication patterns we bring with us, ones we learned during our childhood and life. It is also a chance to establish a new way of communicating, to learn and listen to each other. Do we want to communicate with the intention of connecting and nurturing, or do we want to communicate transactionally and just exchange information? The choice is up to all of us, but the young love phase is the most fruitful soil to set the tone for the future. The main reason is the presence of happy, loving hormones that flow easily and naturally, which makes us more receptive even when conversations are triggering or challenging. It is so important to tackle all those conversations that we instinctively want to avoid; in those, we grow and connect, providing the connection is healthy and safe to express your full selves.

Lastly, let’s not forget the playfulness, fun, and laughter. Being able to bring out your inner child and be goofy is so healing and nurturing for all of us, regardless of age. Laughing with our partners strengthens our bond and contributes to creating a lasting partnership that is not just deep but also fun. Being playful also creates space for eroticism and desire, which increases the pleasure and longevity of sexual connection, as well as safety to express our needs and desires. I hope you always continue to play and laugh with each other.

Every love story is a blank canvas you get to paint with your colors; there is no recipe for a successful and long-lasting partnership. It is up to us to decide what ingredients are important to us and how much we want to invest in creating and maintaining the magic love brings to our lives. I find it so inspiring and beautiful how love happens in every situation we are placed in. During hard times, catastrophes, and disasters in the world, love always finds its way; it is ever-present. The ability to feel love and to fall in love is so magical; time and time again, it proves we can find it at any stage of our lives if we are open to it.

I wish for all to allow themselves to open their hearts to love and being loved. I hope you are generous and intentional in the love you give and grateful for the love you receive. I hope you hold each other close whether in your arms or hearts until the next opportunity in person. I hope you continue to talk to each other in good and challenging times. I hope you prioritize each other even when you don’t feel like it. I hope you continue laughing and playing. And I hope you love with presence and intention.

Power of love has no boundaries, stay creative and true to yourselves because there are no two love stories alike, it will always remain one of a kind.

Thank you for showing me how magical love can be (143).

Sending you all my love,

Eni